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Even In His Passing, He Talks

My father, DeWitt Gilmore Jr, was a true inspiration to me. Despite being an amputee – he lost his leg in a baseball accident in 1948 – he never let his disability hold him back from achieving his goals. In fact, in 1950, just two years after the accident, according to the local newspaper, my dad was back on the pitcher's mound, “mowing down” batters for White Plains High with the help of a prosthesis/his replacement leg. And while he won the game for the team, the article in this post doesn’t mention his mighty challenge, how he was playing with one leg. The writer was so busy being creative & eloquent (and razor-sharp) in a Mark Twain kind of way, that the great achievement underlying it all was lost. Almost (heh-heh). But over 70 years later my sister Julie Norris dug up an old newspaper article at the White Plains library in the midst of the pandemic, and this article tells it all. I had an awakening moment when surgically reading thru the aged document, come to find out that the article was written two years AFTER his accident. That is, AFTER he lost his leg. For us, that was so monumental, the realisation that dad recuperated, and was still able to win the baseball field with his high school team. Yeah hold that, slacker! Procrastinator. Or as my dad used to say “stick that in your pipe and smoke it!”
So, at 4am i’m taking a break from my Creative momentum, not to throw my DNA in your face, but to ask  this question: what have you given up on? What is the big tragedy in your life that stops you? What sorts of excuses have you leaned on to comfort your denial; excuses, that have stopped you from whatever the goal is or was?
STOP IT WITH THE EXCUSES!
Me. Gilmore has spoken.
https://www.scribd.com/document/634846223/White-Plains-Defeats-Authors-DAD-s-Article-RE-DeWitt-GIlmore

Overwhelmed Yet?

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Living in the modern world comes with a unique set of challenges and pressures. From the constant need to be connected to the world through technology to the ever-increasing demand for productivity and success, it can often feel like we are stuck in a never-ending rat race. For many men, this can be overwhelming, leading them to consider giving up on the conventional way of life and embracing a simpler, more minimalist existence.

I can personally relate to this struggle as I underwent a similar journey to Atlanta back in 2008. I fully embraced the minimalist lifestyle by living in a cargo van with just a futon mattress, a few items of clothing, and ample storage space underneath the bed. My daily routine revolved around visiting Starbucks and LA Fitness. Although I used an EBT card for food, I was hustling seven days a week and did not allow myself to fall into a sunken place where others might end up in a shelter or jail cell. While I may have been technically "homeless," I never felt homeless. These memories keep me grounded and focused on working hard without making excuses. They help me keep my expenses low and my income high. If my income isn't high enough, that usually means more working hours. Naturally, the average person may not understand this, as you would have had to be there to truly comprehend the experience.

Certainly, the pressures of modern life can push a man to the brink, leading him to feel like he is constantly chasing a moving target. The demands of work, family, and social obligations can leave little room for personal growth or self-care, leading to feelings of frustration and burnout. This is where the concept of "leaving the rat race" comes into play. By getting rid of material possessions and embracing a minimalist lifestyle, men can reduce the clutter in their lives and focus on what truly matters. This can include living off the grid, growing their own food, and embracing a slower, more intentional way of life. For me, it was as simple as an LA fitness membership and a seat at Starbucks, as STARBUCKS had many satellite offices with free Wi-Fi and plenty of entrepreneurs who were also chasing their dreams. However, it's important to note that while there were many like-minded people at Starbucks, there were also plenty of people commiserating there. I remember a man named James Cozine, a 26-year-old White man who made the same Starbucks his office, but he wasn't thinking like me. It only took his car being towed for him to walk into the nearby SUNTRUST bank and turn his life upside down. Upon further research, I found that this guy had robbed a nearby bank in the past, showing that one man's journey can be way more extreme than another's.

Before you think about resorting to extreme measures, there are other ways to change your life. You can shut down some of the clocks in your life that are attached to bills. You might also find an institution or entrepreneur whom you can bless with your physical energy. While your car and home may not exist at the moment, you'd be surprised how far you can come. I'm not bragging about my journey because in life, there is an ebb and flow, and you have to be savvy enough to know when to hold, when to fold, when to walk away, and when to run. That's not just a song; it's grassroots reality.

Even while I lived in a trailer, knee-deep in my off-grid circumstances, I was performing on a top level in life, driving professionally, living on purpose

By embracing minimalism, you can focus on what truly matters in your life. Whether that means downsizing your living space, cutting unnecessary expenses, or letting go of material possessions that no longer serve a purpose, the benefits of a simpler life can be profound.

Of course, this doesn't mean that everyone should give up their homes and move into a cargo van like I did. It's important to find a balance that works for you and your individual circumstances. For some, minimalism might mean simply cutting back on unnecessary purchases or finding ways to simplify daily routines. For others, it might mean making more radical changes to their lifestyle.

The key is to be intentional about the choices you make and to prioritize what truly matters in your life. This might mean dedicating more time and energy to relationships, personal growth, or creative pursuits. It might mean letting go of certain expectations or societal pressures that don't align with your values or goals.

Ultimately, the path to a simpler, more fulfilling life will be different for everyone. It requires introspection, self-awareness, and a willingness to make changes. But if you're feeling burnt out, overwhelmed, or unfulfilled, it might be worth exploring the benefits of minimalism and simplifying your life.

And remember, it's never too late to make a change. Whether you're in your twenties or your sixties, there is always room for growth and transformation. So take a step back, reflect on what truly matters to you, and be open to the possibility of a simpler, more meaningful way of life.

If nothing else I said touches the meaty part of your brain, remember this: “I DID IT, YOU CAN TOO” #relentless

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Homeless, not hopeless. And here is how I made ends meet...

To pivot in life, it is crucial to be adaptable and resourceful. Life is full of unexpected changes, and it is important to make the most of these situations. The first step towards pivoting is to recognize that change is necessary and to welcome it with open arms. Although it can be a difficult process, having the right mindset can turn it into a transformative experience.

Being resourceful involves taking stock of one's skills, connections, and resources and utilizing them to find new opportunities. It also means being open to learning and taking on new challenges. Additionally, having no shame in being receptive to opportunities can help one make the most of any given situation and create new paths.

After experiencing a significant emotional event, it may be challenging to get back on one's feet. It's important to give oneself time to heal and process the event while also taking action. Seeking support from loved ones or professionals, practicing self-care activities, and setting new goals can be helpful. It's essential to remember that setbacks are a natural part of life, and with resilience and determination, one can overcome them.

The writer's personal experience illustrates that he successfully pivoted by being resourceful and adaptable. Despite living in difficult circumstances, he was able to achieve success by using his skills and connections to create opportunities. Consistency and mastery of his craft allowed him to build a strong reputation and network. By continuing to embrace change and leverage his resources, he excelled in various industries and fields.

“Against all Odds: A Journey Through a Lawless Land”

The East Coast of the United States now had no borders or state lines. Instead of pieces of a pie, the entire coast appears to be one big old barren, ruined city. And the only sound we hear now is the wind howling through the streets and deserted buildings, the only structures that remain after the solar meltdown. I hate to say it, but the Sun, the single most important asset to life on Earth… The Sun was to blame for all the death and destruction, and the few of us who survived knew it to be “God’s Will” instead of a calamity or a natural disaster. I guess that’s just our way of coping with it all. But today, the sun is friendly and manageable, even if it's so scorching hot as it blazes down on the cracked pavement where we stand. It's both weird and Godly all at once,  how it shimmers across the atmosphere in a kind of heated haze that makes it hard to see. Amidst the rubble, Dalia and I are simply two figures trudging forward, with our faces hidden behind gas masks.

Such is my routine nowadays, how my eyes scan the ruins for any signs of life, food, or drinkable water. My hair has grown thick and wooly, not just by nature, but because it's dry and brittle and dusty. The only thing that keeps it this way is only from perspiration, otherwise, I’m sure it would’ve broken off by now. Any resources that we’ve come across such as vaseline or lotion, if it hasn’t already dried up, I make sure Dalia has. I’m not thinkin' about my hair like I know she is.  Let me do the heavy lifting, like carrying this large backpack, or swingin' this machete if and when. My priorities are different, for sure, ready for any dangers that might arise.

Dalia’s hair is wild tho! But to me, it's her royalty cascading down her back in a tangle of knots. Despite her rough appearance, she moves with grace and agility that belies her tough exterior. Plus she’s got that crossbow strapped to her body. Play Russian roulette with her if you want to. My Queen’s fingers are nothing less than expertly tested and talented lethal weapons. And best believe she too is scanning the landscape for signs of prey.

We keep it movin’ through the city, and we encounter all manner of dangers. Mutant creatures still lurk in the shadows, also hunting for food. And there are the rival scavengers who roam the streets, searching for anything of value. Many of them are harmless, without weapons or the skills we have. But the default hasn’t changed for us, even if any of us out here are without, or without access to available resources, we haven't forgotten we’re still a black man and a black woman. And although we’re skilled survivors, we’re super clear that if God’s Will had not hit, it would be the same age-old story of bias and prejudice and racism. It’s not as if that all suddenly goes away simply because we had a calamity. 

For now, we’re driven by our accumulative experience and wisdom, nothing but scavengers ourselves, stumbling here and there but trying to stay consistent in our Westward journey, hoping that the rest of the country isn’t as bad as the east coast. Hoping that there are reserves of water or plant life somewhere. Without any communication, it's hard to tell, but we’re hopeful in this post-apocalyptic era of our lives. We’re hopeful that whatever God has left for us includes humanity's salvation.

For now, every new day is mission-accomplished. Another day of life while we travel through the tragic ruins of what we now look at as “the old world,” and we just believe. And that belief coupled with our hopes just might be the key to unlocking some new future, whatever that is.

JOURNAL ENTRY 209: Our journey is long as it is arduous, but we never lost sight of their goal. If she loses hope, I push her. If I fall off, she encourages me. We will continue to fight off raiders, we’ll navigate these treacherous terrains, and we’ll endure these harsh elements, but we will draw upon our collective wisdom. I believe this is Georgia where we’ve camped for a couple days, and we’ll pick up our things and continue on to Tennessee, according to our map and compass. But what we’re not gonna do is pass thru Alabama, Mississippi, Louisiana, or Texas. After all, I know there are survivors among us; I see that day after day. But with the tattered history of those states, we’re not willing to risk our lives now that the country seems to be lawless, with no policing. I know if this nation rebuilds, eventually there will be some sort of government put in place, but for now, we all we got.  

Here in Georgia, yet another ruined landscape, we found some protection under a bridge, an overpass that appears to be as deserted as its surroundings. But we won’t make the mistake of relaxing our own security measures. Naturally, if anyone reads this in the future, you’ve already seen our past run-ins. So you know what’s possible. And so we stand strong and stay vigilant.  For now, this is our hidden bunker that blocks the unreasonable and extremely scorching sunlight. Yes, we’re tired, but we will continue to be blessed, to restore, and to remain resilient. We’ll use our natural skills and ingenuity to overcome every obstacle. I hope I have the discipline to write many more of these entries, how it feels like I’m documenting the beginning of a new world. I mean, I hope it's not. I hope there's life out there on the West Coast and beyond. But there’s no tellin. I just feel that this should be a running document, and I get to be the reporter. This is life as we know it; nothing in the past matters. No more Internet, no more cellphones or TV. No more fancy cars or planes. You gotta walk, just like I gotta walk. So the playing field is somewhat even. Except for those who have taken it upon themselves to be authority figures. And I get it, some people were just born to be important, to be in the front holding the flag. But for Dalia and I, we’re loving the real things, like how the sun is bathing the city with its warm glow of light instead of the meltdown that nearly annihilated so many of us. But this nourishing sunlight feels normal to us when there’s nothing normal about this place looking like a ghost town. And if we can have many more days like today, I’m content with what it is, and the journey will be worth it. FULL-STOP

I’m taking one last look around as I stuff my notebook in my backpack, and then I’m on the first watch while Dalia catches some much-needed rest. We say “rest” because sleeping will put our lives at risk; the scavengers will swoop in and go for blood. After all, so many of them are living on the blood of others since drinking water is one of the missing resources. 

I can’t help thinking that this is ground zero and that there’s a new world we’ll need to create. And here we are (again), the original black man and black woman, the new Adam and Eve, forced to cope with the foul air with these gas masks, looking forward to our next healthy toke of clean oxygen, and hiding our resources from the hunters among us. It’s become a thing, the warm breeze that I’m feeling at this ungodly hour, and the symbol of freedom and hope that it resembles. Freedom and hope are all we’ve got to go on for the time being. That, and imagining a world. The journey has only just begun.

      

 

 

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We Are All Ants

I have grown addicted to the ant culture. In plain sight, they simply amaze me. I've seen YouTube videos of people pouring hot, molten mercury into large anthills, then excavating the ant colony from underground and cleaning off all the dirt for the big reveal. In all of the videos, I’ve realized one thing: there was a lot of work put into creating a virtual hotel underground. Then I thought about how all of the earth under our footfalls and roads is compacted, sometimes too hard to dig a shovel into. And yet these ants... They get into and through that first, and then they BUILD! Ants have long been used as a metaphor for hard work, resilience, and life in general. These tiny creatures have fascinated humans for centuries, and with good reason. Ants work very hard and don't give up. They work nonstop to build their colonies and gather food for their queen and other ants. Their behavior has been studied a lot and has even led to a lot of new ideas and inventions. But I don’t need “studies” to see the similarities between me, the workaholic, and the ant life.

But it’s not just me! When we look at ants, we see a reflection of the values that we as humans hold dear. Ants work diligently and tirelessly, never giving up despite the challenges that they face. They have an amazing ability to work as a team and help each other reach the same goal. In fact, working as a team is so important to ants that they have developed different jobs and ways to talk to each other to make sure they are all working together well.

Furthermore, ants are known for their resilience in the face of adversity. When their colonies are destroyed, they quickly rebuild and carry on with their work. They adapt to changes in their environment and find new ways to thrive. Because life is full of unexpected challenges and setbacks, adaptability and resilience are important traits to have.

Ants can also be seen as a metaphor for life in general. Just as ants work tirelessly to build and maintain their colonies, we too must work hard to achieve our goals and build a fulfilling life. Like ants, we must be resilient in the face of challenges and adapt to changes in our environment. We must also work together with others to achieve our common goals and support each other in times of need.

The next time you look at an ant or try to stomp one out? Try and see them differently, perhaps as a powerful metaphor for hard work, resilience, and life in general. They represent the values and qualities we humans value, and the way they act reminds us that success and happiness come from working hard, being tough, and working with others. By learning from the example of ants, we can better navigate the challenges of life and build a better future for ourselves and those around us.

I have grown addicted to the ant culture. In plain sight, they simply amaze me. I've seen YouTube videos of people pouring hot, molten mercury into large anthills, then excavating the ant colony from underground and cleaning off all the dirt for the big reveal. In all of the videos, I’ve realized one thing: there was a lot of work put into creating a virtual hotel underground. Then I thought about how all of the earth under our footfalls and roads is compacted, sometimes too hard to dig a shovel into. And yet these ants... They get into and through that first, and then they BUILD! Ants have long been used as a metaphor for hard work, resilience, and life in general. These tiny creatures have fascinated humans for centuries, and with good reason. Ants work very hard and don't give up. They work nonstop to build their colonies and gather food for their queen and other ants. Their behavior has been studied a lot and has even led to a lot of new ideas and inventions. But I don’t need “studies” to see the similarities between me, the workaholic, and the ant life.

But it’s not just me! When we look at ants, we see a reflection of the values that we as humans hold dear. Ants work diligently and tirelessly, never giving up despite the challenges that they face. They have an amazing ability to work as a team and help each other reach the same goal. In fact, working as a team is so important to ants that they have developed different jobs and ways to talk to each other to make sure they are all working together well.

Furthermore, ants are known for their resilience in the face of adversity. When their colonies are destroyed, they quickly rebuild and carry on with their work. They adapt to changes in their environment and find new ways to thrive. Because life is full of unexpected challenges and setbacks, adaptability and resilience are important traits to have.

Ants can also be seen as a metaphor for life in general. Just as ants work tirelessly to build and maintain their colonies, we too must work hard to achieve our goals and build a fulfilling life. Like ants, we must be resilient in the face of challenges and adapt to changes in our environment. We must also work together with others to achieve our common goals and support each other in times of need.

The next time you look at an ant or try to stomp one out? Try and see them differently, perhaps as a powerful metaphor for hard work, resilience, and life in general. They represent the values and qualities we humans value, and the way they act reminds us that success and happiness come from working hard, being tough, and working with others. By learning from the example of ants, we can better navigate the challenges of life and build a better future for ourselves and those around us.

 

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