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Our 1st Date was very telling. It was about an hour-long dinner at The Juicy Crab... To begin with she’s a half hour late, walks in with her expensive (I’m lookin-old-as-fuc) Gucci glasses and im immediately unimpressed. I can’t imagine sex between us. She looked more like Deniro from Casino than the young pictures posted on her Facebook page. And so I found myself already sold into this dinner out, and yet fighting my better judgement to “make” or “force” some kind of potential with this woman... some kind of progress. I’m even forcing myself to enjoy what I see, and to ignore the certain red flags... no, there wasn’t a lot of make up. But while that played well on my mind, it was offset by what came from her mouth. She was already making excuses for why other dates didn’t work, and why one particular date told her to her face that she was “bougie” and “a bitch.” Before dinner came I found myself apologizing on his behalf, even if she was bourgeois or saditty, with the high maintenance ways, I didn’t feel she deserved that.

After all, many of these sorts of “women of the world” are raised by Jack & Jill, they are sheltered by their parents or even by their high society relationships. But even that wasn’t the case here, as I learned later, this one had been put thru the years of the dice-roll; the groupie-sex that rappers authored, followed by dopeboy girlfriend sex, which she explained to me as occasional “risky sex and random backseat experiences.”

So this is who I had sitting in front of me, across the table of crab legs. We’ll call her Cheryl. 

So I’m already clear that she’s aging like a bottle of hard liquor. She’s already outside of my preferred window of that sexy, mature 30-something. But there’s no doubt Cheryl is “seasoned” but also still (as notes in her Facebook plea) wants for random travel adventures and sexual thrills. “Not everyday, but random.” As for me, I’m shrugging my shoulders with the pregnant pause. “Okay.”

Okay, so blame me for how I got here to the table. This newfound freedom I have, The veteran entrepreneur, complete with multiple revenue streams and how I just don’t give a shit. #nofilter

So I turn my phone down and pay attention as she drags me thru her dating woes. But thru the smoke and mirrors of her conversation, I’m asking myself “fella, what is attracting you to this woman? What can you attach to that will force this in a positive direction?”

 

STRIKE ONE: "DINNER WITH SAM ROTHSTEIN"

SHE SAYS: “Waiter, since my meal isn’t right would you mind sending a couple sausages over?”

To myself: ‘Jeez, she’s into swine.’

So she proceeds to explain to me that “everyone dies from some health issue” and that she’s avoiding the one that runs in her family. When I suggest changing her diet she’s already making excuses why it’s “ok” for her to eat what she wants.

Thru dinner I’m aware that she’s sneaking peaks at me, sizing me up...  outside of the restaurant I lied and told her “I enjoyed myself.” 

And again I could see her leaning into the conversation, no pulling away. Not leaving room for mystery or the chase. Something told me she was easy. At that moment I took a leap of faith and (random as I like to be), I scooped her off of her feet to see what she weighed in my arms. That isn’t something new, but something I’ve done on occasion. This also creates a closer bond as my hands are on her body and her arms/by default fall around my neck. Creepy, yes. But not if I don’t reveal these truths? 

STRIKE TWO: "EASY LIKE SUNDAY EVENING"

So yes: At the end of the first date I said “let’s do this again” to which she said “I hope so.” and I thought “Damn sisters gotta do better.” She was supposed to say “we’ll see.” She was supposed to shrug and say “I’ll think about it.” She could’ve even patted me on the shoulder and winked and she’d have nailed me down... she woulda had me wonderin “wtf is SHE packin’ between those thighs!?” But no. Instead I’m an instant visitor to her private sanctuary. Her home. I wanna say: Who does that? And “She’s that easy?” But then, I know me. And I know I’m the “great expectation.” You realize this after so many experiences where I’m not forced to try hard or to go thru hurdles. Just take me to the velvet rope. 

So anyway, DATE ONE she was already beggin for it, kept lookin up at me with her puppydog eyes. Shit, i’m thinkin... wondering, do most women 50 and older have puppydog eyes? And BTW, it was 3/4 times that she mentioned “I’m about to be an ‘empty-nester’ and also that “my son is away until Wednesday...” so she clearly wanted somethin to go down between date one and Wednesday. Sex perhaps? Companionship? 

THE SECOND DATE is suddenly the next day. It evolved from a series of text messages on Saturday and at least one phone call. I also recall her saying on three occasions that her grown son was away for a few days. I couldn’t tell if that was her way of saying “the house is all mine come and take me.” Or maybe there was some other platonic activity she had in mind. Would we be kissing? Would we be cuddling? Shit, even that would be a new thing since 54yr old lips hadn’t kisses anything over 35... well, in nearly a decade.

35... Hmmm. My consumer conscience is  calculating things...

So far, the Juicy Crab dinner (heavily discounted because she pushed the envelop on the order being wrong/added hard boiled eggs) and then add a bag of shrimp I brought over to her 1st floor, “300k box” she called it, and my total bill for interacting with this woman cost all of $35.

 

STRIKE THREE "MUTT HAIR, HER HAIR ALL IN THE AIR"

Lol. And nope, you ain’t miss nothin; (the day after) she did invite me up to her place. Already I knew she was thirsty and her signals were saying “please accept me.” And would I have gone down the rabbit hole for the sex? Well for a man that’s always talkin about discilpin' Uuuh likely not. Nevertheless, I made sure I “balanced” my mind and body before the date at her place. So the only “desire” I had was for the Jumbo shrimp I cooked for us. Yep, she got a chance to catch these skills, and I figured that would be as far as it would go if this alignment wasn’t in synch. I had a few discussions before the date, looking for people to maybe talk me out of this new web I was about to bounce on. She had webs too, bragging about her former rapper husband and how “his money is always on time” and inevitably how she rolled the dice many late nights with this and that cheatin dope boy... and I already drew lines in the sand about how rapper groupies are pushed to the limits if only to satiate these egos. Shit I know this more than most because I wrote the damn book “Rappers R In Danger!”

So yeah, I was already “on alert” but then this annoying lil mutt bouncin all over the place, on and off the couch where we sat. Loved dogs for my entire childhood. But this critter was giving me the creeps, not because he was so filled with zest, but that he was so close to my food/just unsanitary circumstances in an otherwise clean environment. Annoying, creepy and I felt like crabs were crawling up my arms. She even grabs the pup from time to time to stroke it, and then she’d coincidentally stroke her hair.

During dinner she stashes her dog in a small cage nearby and he continues to make dizzying circles like a hamster on the run. 

I tried to put some positive programming on the TV so that we wouldn’t get stuck into any program, so that we would get to talk to one another, but that didn’t work. She asked if I minded her releasing the dog once I finished eating and I shrugged. Of course that just turned his energy up 10 notches and again he was all over the couch in her arms in her hair and I had had enough.

I don’t know what triggered the next few minutes but she went on about how her dog was part of the family, as if it were her son, and that she slept with the dog. Then she ranted about "Well, my post said 'I have all my paperwork, current" And My response to her was Cold: Number one, "Why would I need any paperwork? What makes you think I'm ever fucking you?" and then, with my eyes on her front door “well I hope your dog can give you the orgasms you’re looking for“

I slip my sneakers on grabbed my cell phone and I couldn’t wait to get back to life as usual. A $35 lesson is all this turned out to be. Sure, I might have had her live out her remaining 50-yr old “80s groupie fantasies” on my unused dick, but considering how that was such a mental uphill climb for me, I left that house relieved, with my foot on the accelerator.  I couldn’t help thinking that failed date she experienced was onto something! But even that thought was brushed away by the wind of i-285. I cut on my Pandora. And Just focused on my agenda moving forward. A few hours of lost time to make up for. Stick to the script. Okay Nipsey...

“Legendary self-made progress, last time that I checked ... First get the money, then respect... 

Then the power, and the hoes come next”

In that order

My Story: Building, Re-Establishing Credit & My 50k HeadStart

I feel like we all go through life floating, grabbing onto resources, and when we get a grip, if we get lucky...

if we have guidance and leadership then we can claim stability.

If you are fortunate as I am, and if the world at large was able to grab you by the coat tail... if some system embraced or hooked you or if the hand of God reached into your life to press pause, to force you into a Matrix, enabling you to soul-search and to double-down on what is important, to recognize what your life‘s purpose is, and perhaps it all enlightens you to develop the blueprint in achieving that purpose, even then you still may not have access to the information that will secure you, that will drive in fuel you, or that will sustain you through your ventures, your risk-taking and ultimately your success. Speaking for myself, there has never been a school class, teacher, leader or even a book that has grabbed me and taught me about credit. Not until the last couple of years have I learned all that it takes to be free, to be happy, and to feel fulfilled.

Sure, you can live off the earth on some mountain, fishing and hunting and being a free spirit. Yes! That is surely possible and the practice in and of itself is fulfilling, just to know that as a human being you have survival skills and you need nothing from nobody in order to live a full life. Plenty of people live this way; low-tech, off social media... some bartender job that keeps them paid and happy and out of harms way. But in our diplomatic, civil world of checks and balances, if you plan to progress, advance, succeed, contribute and claim a piece of this dynamic, you will need to have a strong financial portfolio. If you want your child to live in a peaceful habitat around other peaceful kids, able to study under peaceful circumstances, then you will need to have AAA credit. If you need an operation, a new job, a new car, or even to open a bank account, it would serve you to at least have a median credit score without a whole heap of "dings."  And as for increase, you want real estate holdings, multiple revenue streams that are founded with products and services that feed people information, inspiration, entertainment and the schematics on how to live better in the world we know today. And that’s just what it is: if you’re a basketball player you hopefully have talents and skills that entertain an audience. If you’re an actor or a singer then you hopefully have a skill set that inspires, entertains and makes people dance or at least keeps their heart beating with a smile on their face. If you are a teacher a lecture then you hopefully inspire others and motivate others and fuel their dreams.

But even if you’re doing all of that, you need a roof over your head, a vehicle or the means by which to get to and fro, and finally if you care, you want the extras that help with your sound health, as well as the comforts that put clothes on your back and food in your stomach.

This master plan was one that I had to learn on my own, even with all of the leadership in my circle. Whether you are a Reverend, a teacher, a businessman or some community leader in my life, there has never been the accumulative of all resources (all at once) at my doorstep, in my inbox or in person, embracing me, telling me “brother sit down I need to tell you the most important things in life.” Oh yes, my mentors have indeed spilled the tea. They have indeed invested and have helped in some way shape or form. But I am absolutely clear that no one effort or initiative has grabbed me up to say “this is how it’s done.”

I am evermore clear at this point in my life that this is why am here. I’m here to be the most resourceful man you’ve ever known. I have touched many of you for a moment or for a long time, and although it has not been clear and defined as to why I am in your life, it should be that way now. Even if you hafta deal with me at a distance, I'm good with it. The info is yours to use in the quest to better your life. Don't get all goofy, with the whole "I'm not talkin to him because of this this and that. Yadda, yadda, yabba-dabba do" You shouldn't tie your feelings up and cause such blockage! lol. I'm okay and you're okay, and we all want to experience joy and progress and success in our lives. Whatever is holding you back, get over it. You should know that this is why I am here. You should know that I am all about your healthy mind and body. I am all about you building, maintaining, sustaining, and ensuring success. I am all about your sound finances, residual income streams and peace of mind in your life. Maybe I haven’t been clear in the past, floating on my famous magic carpet. Maybe I haven’t defined it all in one meeting. Maybe I was moving too fast or you were moving too fast or we were just two ships crossing in the night. No matter that, I am clear now. 

During the next few posts I intend to drop some science to further this initiative. But in the meantime I want to start hearing now, I want to be affirmative with certain tools that will advance you even while you’re learning from me.

credit utilization

 In this diagram, detailed for you is how the world of banking and resources and finances sees you. This data that you provide to the world paints a picture of who you are, how you were disciplined, and how secure you are in your life. Sure, you might be mentally sound and spiritually intact, and you might also earn an income and want for nothing. But in terms of progress, and on the grand scale of things you might want to ask yourself are you doing the most that you can while you’re here on this earth. You might be asking yourself are you as resourceful as you could possibly be in your life, amongst your friends and family, in the whole equation we know as your existence.

I have met so many people who could care less and who think they know it all, who are smug and who have never been faced with a significant emotional event… A reality check that calls to question their financial well-being.  I can’t tell you the amount of people who I’ve asked questions of, like the entitled kids I'd Uber in Atlanta's wealthy neighborhoods. I'd ask: "how is your FICO score?" Or, “how is your business credit?

In some cases their parents hooked them up. Some folks, for one reason or another, are fortunate enough to get a check every month. In some cases they had a willy-nilly exclamation. And in other cases they just didn’t care. I even had a woman tell me, "I don't need credit... I'm not supposed to have it." I firmly believe that at some point in our lives we are called to the table and forced to face the music. It may be in your 20s when you fall in love, your 30s when you have children and want to own your own home, or in your 40s when you get divorced and suddenly become an empty Nester. Hell, if you screwed up for a series of decades and you are in your 50s or 60s there’s no better time than the present!

So while I compile my schedule of posts over the next two weeks, I want to begin with showing you how you are looked upon by the world of finance and credit. The diagram above says it all.

Now while there are services and professionals who can fix a lot of this pie and puzzle, such as payment history, age of credit, amount of inquiries, and your mix of credit, the one equally big chunk of it all (the biggest chunk) is based on your discipline and how you use the resources that you manage. Yes indeed you start out with access to resources! Whether it’s you being offered a credit card when you’re leaving high school and entering college or if you got some sort of gift and your parents cosign something for you early on. Or maybe you're like me and suddenly land a quarter-million dollar book deal for a series of your hot ideas. Whatever the case, everyone gets that first pass of "trust" where some institution or individual affords you a "leap of faith." We will trust you until you muck it up!

So look, 30% of your CREDIT profile is considered “utilization“. And without further ado, I want to increase your credibility and lower your utilization in one fell swoop by sharing this $10,000 resource with you. I implore you to grab this program for yourself and within a matter of months (even as you’re reading my posts and putting my information to work) you will see a change to your personal credit score. Your credibility will increase, and your utilization will lower. You will have no choice in the matter, especially if you follow my instructions.

Click the link, sign up for this program and feel free to email me questions or post comments that you have about this process. We’re gonna move together step by step, but we’re going to start together right now. We’re going to build your 800-plus credit score beginning now. No more procrastination, my family’s Greatness begins right now.

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